“Death and life are in the power of the tongue…”
WORDS! The power behind it is immeasurable, they are the most powerful force available to humans.
Some days ago, in a conversation with someone, he said to me “your life is smelling,” to him, it was a joke, but I had to counter it immediately, not for any other thing, but because I understand the power of words.
Words are tools capable of tearing down and building up; of breaking and of making, thus, the proper use of it cannot be overemphasized. The effect of words on a person is weighty, the Bible acknowledges that “a word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver.” It doesn’t also fail to let us know that our speech ought to be seasoned with grace.
You never know what you say to a person that makes him/her shut out, so many people have ended their lives because of the wrong use of words by a close relative. I remember something someone said to me, it remains fresh in my mind, but one thing I did for myself was not to allow it have effect on me.
So, let’s take a cue from a situation that occurred during Christ’s time on earth. While on a journey from Bethany with his disciples, Christ was hungry and he sighted a fig tree which he desired to eat from, but it was quite unfortunate that it had produced no fruit, and Christ said “…no man eat fruit of the hereafter forever…,” and just as he said it, so it happened.
Aside Christ, other people recorded in the scriptures also made life changing utterances, some for good and some for bad. An example is Jabez, a man whose mother named out of sorrow, and the effect of the name was being manifest in his life. He by the words of his mouth, turned an otherwise negative situation in his life for good. On the flip side, we see the Israelites, whom by their words turned a 40 days journey to 40 years.
In life, the things we say to ourselves or to others goes a long way in shaping our life and the life of others. It is pertinent we shun negative utterances, and form the habit of making positive statements over every and any situation. When all you have to say is negative, the best thing to do is to keep silent and avoid speaking,
Closely related to our words is our heart. The Bible says that “out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks.” If we do not guard our heart diligently, avoiding negative thoughts, our words will not always edify when we speak. Our daily prayer should be “dear Lord, set your watch over my heart, and help me tame my tongue.”
In Love as a Way of Life, Gary Chapman uses the metaphor for words as being either ‘bullets or seeds’. If we use our words as bullets with a feeling of superiority and condemnation, we are not going to be able to restore a relationship to love. If we use our words as seeds with a feeling of supportiveness and sincere good will, we can rebuild a relationship in positive and life-affirming ways.
On a final note, “pleasant words are as an honey comb, sweet to the soul, and health to the bones.” (Proverbs 16:24).
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