Have you ever been in a situation where it seems you can’t go any further, and the best thing to do is just to throw in the towel. I’ve sure felt that way. I was passing through neck-deep depressing situations, and the hope of getting better was so bleak. I have on many occasions voiced out my desire to just give up on so many things, and even to the point of wanting to give up on life.
Not to sound abstract, I’ll cite personal examples of times when I almost dropped like a hot potato. At a point in time, I was having academic challenges that was way beyond me, I couldn’t comprehend what exactly was happening as results were not commensurate with my efforts. I was frustrated and gliding into depression, until I eventually spoke to someone about the negative thoughts of wanting to quit.
I have on many occasions thought about the use of continuing my Christian journey and wanting to put it behind me because of the many things that I was going through; times when it seems I’m all on my own, and God is so far way and the many struggles I encountered. I’ve had times when I just felt like giving up on people, friends, and funny enough even this blog.
So in times when I felt like giving up, what did I do? I voiced out this thoughts to trusted friends who encouraged me to hold on, because there is still hope. I was supported with words of encouragement and without any shadow of doubt, prayers. In fact one of them sent me sent me a note encouraging me not to mix fear together with my desire for success, because of it’s capacity to kill efforts, as well as neutralise endeavours.
Perhaps, you are equally passing through some life challenges, and you want to capitulate. You’ve tried hard at achieving that goal, but it seems impossible; you’ve made applications for jobs or scholarships, but you’ve been slapped in the face with several no’s. You might have entered into relationships, and it is as if you can’t move on; or perhaps you are even about to call your marriage quit because of the roller coaster of problems in it.
If all you want to do is just to give up, then I’ll be sharing few tips that will aid you in killing the desire to give up. Before I do, one thing you should understand is that your breakthrough is closer than you think the moment you want to give up.
Over to the tips.
At the point where all you want to do is just to throw in the towel, ask yourself this question “what made you go into it?” When you can point out the reason for embarking on that endeavour, motivate yourself to press on. Constantly encourage yourself to go on, remind yourself daily of your passions, and constantly uproot thoughts that would want to pull you down.
DON’T EXPECT RESULTS RIGHT AWAY
One reason I always wanted to give up was that for everything I do, I always wanted instantaneous results. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying don’t expect result; of what benefit is working at something without expecting results. What I’m wanting to point out is that results may not come right away, and if you set your hearts to get result straight-up, you might be disappointed. For instance, if Thomas Edison had given up because he did not get results all the time he tried, he may not have been the one to invent the light bulb.
KEEP HOLDING ON
A song writer has this to say:
“I can’t just give up now, gone too far from where I started from nobody told me the road won’t be easy,but I don’t believe you brought me this far to leave me.”
One thing that should constantly keep you going at that dire moment when all you want to do is to surrender is to constantly remind yourself that you’ve come too far from where you started, and you’ve got no choice but to hold on. I tell you, you won’t hold on for too long before the ray of light will shine again. There is always a silver lining in every cloud, and light at the end of the tunnel. Just keep holding on.
TRY AND TRY AGAIN
The best thing you can do for yourself is to be resilient in everything you do. You have no choice but to learn perseverance. When you see yourself failing at what you are doing over and over again, keep trying over and over again, for by so doing. Never have the mindset of quitting. To be honest with you, it might not be easy to keep trying, but you just have to persevere.
A common quote says “a problem shared is half-solved.” By talking to trusted people about what you’re passing through, you might be able to get help that would take you out of the problem you’re passing through. Not speaking out was my undoing, and I constantly groaned under the weight I carried in silence until I found the strength to speak out.
All in all, the moment the thought of giving up crosses your mind, the best thing to do is to uproot it immediately. To conclude, Panam Percy Paul said,
“don’t give up, it’s not over; when you give up, then it’s over; hold on to the Lord, and trouble not your heart; even if you fail, it’s not over.