If everything that passes through the eye gate and the ear gate spills through the mouth gate, then there is need for a padlock — Esho Kemi.”
Sometimes ago, a friend made mention of something to me which I doubt she had told any other person. On a number of occasions, I was tempted to spill out the information during a conversation with some other people, but I just found myself being restrained from speaking. It paid off in the end, because if she had wanted others to know, she would have let it out herself. This was beside the fact that what she said was not a secret as such.
One thing I know is that people would have saved themselves many trouble if they had the discipline to seal their lips at times when it was extremely necessary to do. Many relationships and homes wouldn’t have hit the rock bottom if parties in the relationship had the ability to control what slips off their lips. Nations and generations would be delivered of unnecessary problem if they knew the best time to talk and the best time to stay quiet.
The mistake many people make is that they are always eager to talk. They’ve turned themselves to human parrots that chatter about everything that comes to their mind, whether or not it is wrong or right, confidential or public. Whether or not it edifies the listener or dampens the hearer.
The benefits of knowing when to and when not to speak cannot be overemphasized. The Bible makes us to understand that “every man should be swift to hear, slow to speak…” It also makes us to understand that “he that keeps his mouth, keeps his life.”
What then are the benefits of being slow to speak? Knowing the right time to speak and the right time to keep silent saves you from many troubles. At the spur of the moment, some words you may say might cost you many things. You might have revealed sacrosanct information that may be used against you, all because you’ve not practised the ability of taming your tongue.
One good thing you can do for yourself and those around you is practising the ability of thinking before you talk. Zipping your lips affords you that priceless opportunity. It gives you the opportunity to evaluate your thoughts and weigh the effect of your words on your hearers. It also affords you the luxury of choosing your words wisely. You are able to pick your words, sieving irrelevant things you might have said if you had just blurted out everything that comes to mind.
It enables you to keep secrets secret. Even the Bible makes us understand that “in the abundance of words, there wants no sin.” If you are in the habit of being a chatter box, some confidential things meant to reside within you only becomes an open news for all and sundry. The ripple effect of this is that those who are not meant to know things about you know, it also makes people lose confidence in you.
Knowing the benefits of keeping sealed lips, it is of utmost importance to know circumstances when you have to zip your lips.
1) When your words will not edify, zip your lips.
2) When what you want to say is not necessary, close your mouth.
3) When you know your words will hurt, don’t talk.
4) When you are pressed to leak a secret, ask for grace to keep shut.
5) When you just want to wag your tongue, ask for help to tame your tongue.
6) When you want to speak, and you have a nudge not to, please keep silent.
To wrap up, one thing we should know is that every one has a tendency to have a running mouth, but there is one effective prayer made by the Psalmist in Psalm 141:3. He said “set a watch, O LORD, before my mouth; keep the door of my lips.”
This is an earnest prayer that can help us in our daily interactions.
Blessed? Then do well to share. Thanks.