“You’re a very stupid man! The only thing you do is chase anything in skirt.” Tolu charged at her husband giving him a slap which made him stagger, falling to the chair.

“Mummy, mummy, mummy, leave daddy alone, leave him alone joor. You’re always insulting and shouting at him.” Toba, their only son said amidst sobs.

“Will you shut up and get out of here, useless boy.” She replied, pouncing on her husband again. “It’s not your fault. You took after this idiot you call a father.”

With all the strength in him, her husband pushed her away from him, beating her with rage. Dealing her blows and slaps simultaneously.

Toba fled from the living room crying. This was not the first time he had experienced them engaging in fist cuffs. His parents live as cat and rat who cannot see eye to eye, and beating each other was the order of the day.

“Useless man! You must kill me today o! Let me die so you can have access to all the stupid girls you’re running after! Kill me o! Kill me! Useless man, idiot.” Tola screamed, fighting back.


“I will not kill you. You will kill yourself. Foolish woman.” He said, walking out having satisfied himself with the lesson he has taught her.


World over, domestic violence occurs in various degrees in many homes which have left many children derailed and broken. Many are of the opinion that the main victims of domestic violence are those who are physically involved to the exclusion of others. Before we think in this direction, let’s not forget that when two elephant fights, the ground suffers. The worst hit of every form of domestic violence are the children of the home.

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How does this happen?

It makes them see violence as norm. They’ve noticed that their parents constantly engage in violent throw back of words and fists, so they see it as no big deal and are quick to resolve matters with their peers through violence.

They are psychologically and emotionally damaged. The best gift you can give your children is a stable environment where love, peace and harmony thrives. To give them otherwise is to derail them psychologically. They are denied of the capacity to experience and understand what parental love is. Fear and chaos rules their heart and that is what they carry all along to their adult days.

The best gift you can give your children is a stable environment where love, peace and harmony thrives. Click To TweetIt passes the wrong message along. They are tempted to believe beating and exchanging words is the best way their parents can express themselves. I once heard a story of a girl requesting her boyfriend to beat her so she could be put in check. A small boy also told me one day that his dad slapped his mum because she did something wrong. Definitely, that little boy has coded a wrong message in his mind, and the lady in question may be a victim of parental violence back at home.

Let’s not also forget that domestic violence breeds dysfunctional children in the society.

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Parents, beware of the kind of message you pass across to your children through the way you relate with each other and how you resolve disputes. There is no need to go so low in beating up each other or exchanging words.

Parents, beware of the kind of message you pass across to your children through the way you relate with each other and how you resolve disputes. There is no need to go so low in beating up each other or exchanging words. Click To Tweet


To my single friends, children do not have the right in determining which family they will come to, but it lies in your power to determine which kind of father or mother they will have. Marry right through God’s leading and avoid adding to the growing number of broken children from broken homes.