“Tola, can we have the light off?”
“Man, you know I like the light on when I’m sleeping. Moreover, you have your blindfold, please, use it.”
“Is it every night you want me to be using blindfold? Why so selfish? You always put yourself first. Rubbish.”
“Can you hear yourself. You’re saying someone is selfish. You better remove the log in your eyes before removing the speck in another’s eye. If you want the light off, wait till I sleep then suit yourself. Goodnight.”
The next morning.
“Good morning, dear.”
“The table is set.”
“Thank you. I’m not hungry. Have a nice day.”
“I’m sorry about what happened yesterday. It won’t happen again.”
“I’ve heard. Bye!”
Tola wasn’t happy with the way things turned out. She resolved to hand out the olive branch as soon as her husband returned from work.
“Welcome, honey! How was work today?”
“Fine, thank you.”
“Sweetheart, I’m really sorry for my behaviour last night. It wasn’t my intention to disrespect you. Pardon my behaviour, please.”
“I’ve heard. Stand up, please. I’m also very sorry for my cold behaviour. I shouldn’t have reacted that way. It was childish of me. I’m so sorry. Forgive me.”
“You’re forgiven. I love you.”
“I love you, too.”
“Take ye up the foxes, the little foxes that spoil the vine.”
The above is an instruction by the Bible. Your marriage can be likened to a vineyard. At a point in time, there might be little foxes that come to attack the tender grapes and eventually destroy them. It is the duty of the vine dresser to keenly watch over the vine so that the foxes do not carry out their plan.
The same goes in marriage. As we can see in the story above, there are little foxes that if not taken out, they will spoil the tender grapes of your marriage. The little foxes of intolerance, unforgiveness, lack of understanding, anger and bitterness. You’re the vine dresser of your marriage, and the responsibility rests on your shoulder to take out the little foxes that destroy the vine. It’s not easy tending a vine, but it’s absolutely worth it. There are no regrets if you carefully take out those little foxes.
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