Do you know that the needs of your children go beyond the financial security you provide? Do you know that the basic needs of your kids should be met by you first? Do you also know that when your kids begin to get their needs met by a stranger, you’re setting yourself and your kids up for problems? Do you even know that your child(ren) are emotional beings that you need to connect with on an emotional level? Now that you know, can we now go with the flow and learn how to meet the needs of your kids?
The basic need of every child, aside clothing shelter and feeding is their emotional need. This is seen in the way babies bond with their parents at childbirth. At birth, there is a hormone released known as oxytocin that facilitates mother and child bonding. This doesn’t end at childbirth. Children have a basic need for emotional connection with their parents. This can be achieved when parents seek to connect to their children on an emotional level.The basic need of every child, aside clothing shelter and feeding is their emotional need Click To Tweet
So, how can we?
Like really love them. Let them see and feel the love. So love them that even a stranger in your house will feel the current of love that is being transferred. Loving them is not equal to spoiling them. That you’re loving them doesn’t mean you’re not going to discipline them when they err. Know what speaks love to them, let the words you speak even in the heat of anger be with love. Hug them, give them occasional pecks, you can also call them sweet names (don’t reserve it for your spouse only). Once again, let them feel you.
You’re not the only one who needs to be understood. Your children craves for you to understand them. If you don’t understand them, who will? Your children need you to come down to their level, see things from their perspective and then reason things out with them. They do not want you to force your ideas down their throat without them understanding your point. Don’t shout them into submission rather reason together with them and reach an healthy agreement.Your children need you to come down to their level, see things from their perspective and then reason things out with them. They do not want you to force your ideas down their throat without them understanding your point Click To Tweet
BE THERE FOR THEM
More than the money you provide for them, be there for them in deed and in truth. Get involved with their life and their activities. It is the little things you do for them that they will hold on to. If they have an event in their school or in h church and they will be involved, find ways to be a part of it. Those are memories that they will grow up with and cherish for life.
Show some form of empathy towards your children. Don’t be cold towards their needs. Show them that you care and let it be evidential in the way you relate with them. Identify with their thoughts, feelings and emotional needs.
To truly meet the emotional needs of your child, you have to value who your children are. Respect them. You may wonder why you need to respect your children. Well, respect is reciprocal. Even if they do not disrespect you in return to your face, do you know the state of their heart? You don’t have to use harsh words on them or behave disrespectfully towards them because they are your children.To truly meet the emotional needs of your child, you have to value who your children are. Respect them Click To Tweet
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