Just recently, there was a misunderstanding between some people which festered for about a week. They could not meet eye to eye and a blooming friendship was almost hitting the rocks until there was an intervention from a third party. It was at that point of settlement that a thought struck me, “how will I handle any offence that arises between me and my husband when I get married.” My thoughts kept swinging back and forth as I listened to the peacemaker holding out the olive branch to the offended parties.

In dealing with offences, even the Bible makes us understand that “…it is impossible but that offences will come…” (Luke 17:1). To believe that as couples you won’t wrong each other is to live in self conceit, building your castle in the air. As long as the person you’re married to is not an angel, and you both are operating in the flesh, settle it in your mind that you both will have an axe to grind at some points in your marital journey. The earlier you know the better for you.

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Two people with varying backgrounds coming together will definitely have issues except you want to live in a fool’s paradise. So, when the offences arise, what should be your attitude in trashing out issues before it becomes a rot in your home?

DON’T LET THE SUN GO DOWN ON YOUR ANGER

“Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath.” (Ephesians 4:26). There will be times that person who caused butterflies flutter in your tummy will seem to be a pain in your neck. It will be as if you made a wrong choice. Temper may rise and things may go out of hand, however, ensure that you settle your differences before the sun goes to sleep. It is best for couples to sue for peace from each other before they think of retiring to bed. The longer the hurt festers, the sorer it becomes.

APOLOGIZE AS SOON AS POSSIBLE

To keep a happy home, “I’m sorry” should not be far from your mouth. There are people who find it difficult to say sorry particularly when they are not the one that brought about the offence. Someone once said, “apologizing doesn’t mean you’re wrong, it only means you value your relationship more than you value your ego.” Sorry is a magical word that can soothe even a raging lion. Apologizing as soon as the wrong occurs will save you from holding grudges against each other.

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REMEMBER PAST FUN TIMES

Good memories have a way of eroding deep-seated hurts that can rock the boat of your marriage. As couples, there are definitely times when things were rosy, and it seemed you could not do without each other. Unearth those buried pleasant memories and become that inseparable couple you once were. Don’t let unnecessary peccadillo rub you of the happy home you desire.

In conclusion, always commit your home to God’s hand, and never act in the heat of anger. Have a glorious home.

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