I chuckled as soon as I set out to write on this topic. I am certain that we have seen several kinds of proposals from something as simple as, “Marry, me” said over a lunch date, to, “Thus saith the Lord, Sister Bimpe….” to very creative proposals like asking from the sky or inscriptions on the sands of a beach with red petals and candles arranged all about.
You have probably heard several arguments about which is best, moderate, worse and all sorts when it comes to proposals. Is there then a right kind of proposal?
I think what should determine the right kind of proposal will have to be unique to the relationship of the couple, what obtains in their culture or environment. For some, the right proposal may mean that the husband will ask for her hand in marriage through her father first, for another it may mean that the parents of the man go to make known the intentions of their son to the family of the lady, for another, it may be over lunch and that’s the norm for them.
I think what should determine the right kind of proposal will have to be unique to the relationship of the couple, what obtains in their culture or environment Click To TweetAs long as the couple know that they will be getting married, however the proposal occurs as long as they are ready to take that step, is just right. A proposal in the sky or in the middle of a busy area asked on bended knees to the excitement of the crowd around isn’t a determinant of how successful the marriage will turn out. Just do whatever makes the both of you happy as long as it’s not against the will of God.
A proposal in the sky or in the middle of a busy area asked on bended knees to the excitement of the crowd around isn't a determinant of how successful the marriage will turn out. Just do whatever makes the both of you happy as long as⦠Click To TweetAs a lady, what do you expect when being proposed to? As a guy, how do you propose to woo your dream lady? Share with us!
Written by: Juliet Ambali
Good day sis, can I take you out on a lunch date?
At the scene… ehm ehm after taking like three spoons of ice cream for courage. I want to live the rest of my life with you, conquering battles and impacting lives with a great woman. You’re the great woman. Will you be my…?
πππ How I wish it can be romantic?? Iva hear. Maybe sha, it could be.
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It is well with you and her o.
A good one though.
Personally, I have my own reservations for immodest styles of proposing. I am appalled by the extravaganza of proposing in modern times. More often than not, it costs a lot to stage the proposing scene. I believe in modesty.
Also, an extravagant proposal isn’t a guarantee for a long-lasting marriage.
It is also not a guarantee she is going to give him a “yes.” If she rejects the proposal, it becomes shameful for the young man.
By reason of personal principles, I dislike extravaganzas. Not like I don’t like spending, the question is “on what?”
Although, if that’s what the LOML loves, I may have to comply just to please her. But left to me, I see no value in it. π
Thank you, Seun.
I appreciate your comment and point of view.