Spend your morning praying for your spouse and your night pleasuring them. Home Talks.

The greatest disservice you can do to yourself, your spouse and your marriage is placing your spirituality above your sexuality or your sexuality above your spirituality. Sexuality and spirituality in marriage are dependent on each other to make the marriage a fruitful and happy one.

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God is the author of marriage and He understand the workings of marriage. He has made us both spiritual and sexual beings. However, our sexuality finds expression only within the confines of marriage. To do contrary is to act ultra vires to God’s intention for us. But in marriage, He expects that there be full expression, and spirituality should not be given as an excuse for not expressing sexuality.

1 Corinthians 7: 5 is the perfect scripture that speaks of the balance. It says, “defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer, and come together again that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.” Let’s have a thorough analysis of this verse. There are the two elements of sexuality and spirituality in this verse. Sexuality as shown in the command to couples not to defraud each other of their rightful sexual benefits, and spirituality as shown in fasting and praying.

Apostle Paul knows the importance of both, so, he helps us strike the perfect balance because he understands the possibilities of some people tilting to both extremes. Some may choose to be too spiritual, they neglect to nurture their sexuality in marriage. They give themselves to prayer and fasting which is quite good, but neglect their physical intimacy with their spouse, which now drives it to the extreme.

On the other side of the coin are those who in the need to nurture physical intimacy abandon their spiritual intimacy. Paul understands the necessity of prayer and fasting to the Christian faith, hence he speaks about it. He encourages it amongst couples, hence the injunction that express permission be taken from ones spouse before engaging in fasting and praying.

To now strike a balance, he encourages couples to come together as soon as possible lest our good of nurturing spirituality be evil spoken of when the devil brings in adultery after a long abstinence.

It is worthy of note that fasting and praying are not the only spiritual activities engaged in by believers. There are many more. It is only being used as a yardstick in this context.

As I conclude, Allison Hyacintho said, “your marriage bed is as important as your war room.” And I’ll love to add, “your war room is as important as your marriage bed, so, strive for balance in both.”

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Hugs and kisses. Much love from my heart.