Some few years ago, I had an issue with someone. On my part, my actions were not deliberate because I had a missing link with my facts. The other party involved was pissed off, and had lashed out at a third person also involved. I knew what I had gotten myself into, and I had my mind prepared. As soon as I got back to my hostel, I quenched the raging fire by simply using the magic word “I’m sorry.” That was all I had to do to stall the backlash I knew was coming my way.

As humans, we wield a great deal of power and influence over our circumstances. We have the capacity to make a mountain out of a molehill or to completely scatter the molehill with a kick. All of these depends on the kind of answer we give in the heat of anger.
One thing I unconsciously heard from my mum is that between couples, when one of them is blowing hot, the other should blow cold, else if they both blow hot, it won’t take time before they both blow up.

As couples, slight arguments and misunderstandings are bound to occur. The coming together of two different people with different ideologies and way of viewing things will bring about a friction. The friction or the arguments is not the big deal, but the way by which the argument is settled.

The Holy Writ makes us understand that a soft answer turns away wrath, but grievous words stir up anger. The arrow of words shut when the battle of words is going on between you and your spouse determines the kind of result you’ll have after the misunderstanding. Your speech will determine whether a wall will be built or the broken bridge restored.

Peace and unity

As a person willing to build a peaceful serene environment for your marriage, you have to be intentional about what you say and how you say things in handling misunderstanding. Let your words be seasoned with salt and filled with grace. Learn the act of keeping your tongue behind the bars of your teeth lest it goes out of bound. Seek out opportunities to explain yourself when things are less tense. Above all, ask for grace to have control over your tongue. Ask for the help of the Holy Spirit to set a watch over your tongue because in that time when you may be going overboard, and the words of your mouth are flying out like arrow, He will be there to help you filter your words, and He puts a check on you when you decide to go overboard.

In summary, let this be inscribed on the table of your heart. “Even so the tongue is a little member, and boasteth great things. Behold, how great a matter a little fire kindleth.” James 3:5.

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