You have been wondering for a while now if you should keep your past to yourself or share it with your intended. When you are starting out life and you intend to build a family together with someone, it is important to note that this relationship needs to be built on the foundation that comprises love, also, trust and complete openness to each other.
The kind of love that is needed in a marriage is one where it truly covers all, past sins included. You can’t say you love someone and withhold certain things from your past because oftentimes, the intention is because you don’t want them to feel hurt or to walk away. Better he or she makes the decision to walk away before marriage than set out for a complicated married life. If it would be an issue in marriage, it’s better to tackle it before you get married to this person.
Choosing to keep certain things from your fiance(é) is selfish and that’s not an attribute of love. It’s a sign of insecurity keeping things away from someone you intend to spend the rest of your life with.
Truth is, there’s a freedom knowing that your heart is at peace and you are not carrying any baggage secretly. You will also walk about freely not fearing that your partner may hear it from a third party, which isn’t good for your relationship.
When you can trash out the past, it will help to create a better present and future in terms of knowing that you can trust each other about anything no matter what. When you keep certain things from your past away, you will begin to see it as a normal thing to do even in the present and future.
The one person you can talk about your past with and vice versa and not be ‘judged’ by it is the one you should know to spend the rest of your life with amongst other personal convictions for wanting to marry them. It’s okay for the man or woman to be skeptical or not even want to go ahead with getting married, but it is a whole lot better for you both.The right one for you will come along.
What are your views? The world will love to hear.
Love you 😍
Written by: Juliet Ambali
I agree
It’s better to share everything because a secret kept from your fiancé can actually be the one that might ruin the entire marriage later on, so tell each other everything and get married to a happily ever after
Absolutely!
I love this. Thank yoh, Samsho
It’s healthy to reveal your past to your partner as it brings about a stronger relationship but I believe you shouldn’t reveal everything at once and it should also be a gradual process.
Imagine someone that was raped and she goes on telling her spouse about it on the first meeting. This will cause a breakup or most likely a shaky relationship. It’s better of she reveals this months after when the bond is better.
I love your view on this. It should be a gradual process 👌
Thank you, Eromonsele 🤗