We see beautiful pictures of couples together and we go ‘couple goals,’ ‘I go love o,’ ‘this people just make marriage interesting,’ and all the other stuff we say to show that we actually appreciate the couple and if possible would want to pattern our marriage after theirs because of the love and affection they show each other.

I have my couple goals and some times when I see or read some things all I say is “God, thou knowest”. I know you also do have your couple goals which means I’m not the only one on this boat. So, that makes the two of us. 😉

With my couple goals and all, does this mean I want to pattern my own marriage after theirs? Absolutely not! While I admire their home and might learn one or two from them, I do not plan to pattern my marriage after theirs because they are not the model marriage/perfect example to copy, at least for me. So, that brings us to the gist of this post.

Society has in a way done all it can through the movies painted, and the sad narratives portrayed on the social media and every other channel to show how a marriage should be. Sadly, many people gulp this in without sieving the chaff from the wheat.

The model for the success of every marriage that will stand the test of time is clearly stated in the Bible, “wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord… Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; (Ephesians 5:22,25. KJV). The model marriage is that between Christ and the church.

The injunction is that wives are to submit to their own husbands just the same way the church will submit to Christ, while the husband is to love his wife in the same vein in which Christ will love the church. When a home is modelled in this exact fashion without deviating from the designed pattern, that home is bound to be ‘goals’ for those coming behind.

There’s no better pattern you can have than this. The truth is marriage is not all rose and glamour, and the couple you use for goals pass through their own challenges you will not even envy them for. Every marriage is peculiar with its own challenges, and the ONE thing that makes those marriages you see stand despite the challenges is the fact that they have patterned their own marriage after the original standard, and that is what makes it so enviable.

In all, regardless of the societal model of marriage or who your couple goals is, the most important pattern is that between Christ and the church, and when you have that, all other things will fall in place.

By the way, what do you think? Do well to share.