I was reading Pastor Kumuyi’s “The Ideal Husband.” While talking about some reasons boredom creeps into the marriage, he made mention of the fact that many see their marriage as a finished product instead of a work in progress.
That phrase struck me, and yes it birthed this topic 😉. The reason many people get stuck in the rut of routine, playing father and mother role only, or even playing the usual mr and mrs with no spark or nothing is because their marriage has become a finished product. There’s nothing more to be done. They’ve ‘settled down.’
They’ve gone through the process of wooing their spouse and making them feel on top of the world for a while. After they’ve done that, and the honeymoon is over, they settle down to start ‘real life.’ Work is done, nothing more. It’s time to face ‘reality.’ This is sad, right?
They don’t know that the wooing stage was just the first of the forever phase they both have to share as one. They’ve forgotten that they have to keep working so they can retain all the memories and fun they had pre-wedding and during the honeymoon phase. They’ve forgotten that they need extra oil to keep the wheels running.
Your marriage is a work in progress and you should keep it as that. The way you were intentional about loving up and doting on each other while you were at the initial stage of the union is the same way you have to keep working all through the period of the marriage till death or in rapture. You can read honeymoon: a phase or forever here
Don’t allow the see finish syndrome finish your marriage. Keep digging deep to find new treasures in your spouse and mine all you can mine in your marriage. Life is too short to have a boring marriage. Don’t you think?
Keep the mindset that your marriage is a work in progress and not a finished product, and see how boredom will fly outta your window.
Jesus at the center makes the home godly and happy.
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