Ecclesiastes 9:9 helps us get a good understanding into how and why this is essential.

“Live joyfully with the wife whom thou lovest all the days of the life of thy vanity, which he hath given thee under the sun, all the days of thy vanity: for that is thy portion in this life, and in thy labour which thou takest under the sun.”

The depth of what it entails to enjoy the body of your wife as a man is indescribable.

Marriage gifts you with this opportunity and you will be amazed how this starts not just from sex, but way before that. It begins with appreciating how her body is like. It’s important to note that the only way to be able to enjoy her body is to recognize first, her inner beauty and it is only a man who has deeper insights to life and the purpose for which we are created, man and woman alike, that can do this. That’s the only way you do not get to see her body as just another piece contributing to the aesthetics of your home but see it for what it is; a temple and what is to be treasured in your marriage. 

It is also very essential to note that women generally have different shapes and sizes of bodies as individuals and it is important not to idolize one type as the ideal. You should appreciate the uniqueness of the nature of her body type. Also, the differences in body type can be as a result of certain things, health wise included. A woman may have to lose her breasts in order to save her life. Would you love her body any differently? Understand that your wife’s body will most likely undergo metamorphosis from time to time and you need to appreciate and enjoy those changes as well.

So, let’s see together, how do you enjoy your wife’s body?

It starts with the things you mindfully say about her body. It starts from how you even look at her body in a way that leaves her blushing all day even at the thought of it in your absence. It’s in the way you hold her to yourself not even just when you want to have sex with her but as simple as you wanting to feel her body on yours and yours on hers. It’s in the loving teases.

It’s in how you touch her body and contribute to how secure she feels about it. You realise that it is in what you give her that true enjoyment comes from.

Outside of this world, there would be nothing like that. So, it is important that you do not neglect her body and only see it as a tool for functional purposes like bearing a child for you. Enjoying your wife’s body shows how mindful you are about life. That you understand how to relish every moment of life with her that God has gifted you. I hope that this inspires you in a way that makes you long to fulfill God’s will in this area of your life. God bless you.


Jesus at the center makes the home godly and happy.

Much love,

Juliet Ambali.