Gary Chapman is popular for his books on marriage. He’s the author of 5 Love Languages. I think I’ll write on it someday. His books have been a blessing to me and I’m sure to many as well. If you have never read any of his books, I think you have to acquaint yourself with one.

Things I Wish I Knew Before I Got Married is one book you MUST read before you get married and if you’re married, I guess it’s not too late for you to get yourself familiar with the content.

I WISH I KNEW THE TOILET WASN’T SELF CLEANING

“In the home in which I grew up, the toilet was never dirty. It never crossed my mind that someone was cleaning it…” Well, it’s not only the toilet that doesn’t clean itself. The entire house doesn’t do you have to know that and discuss on how to go about the cleaning, when to do the cleaning and who does what.

THAT MUTUAL SEXUAL FULFILLMENT IS NOT AUTOMATIC

“This was another area of marriage in which I never anticipated problems. I was fully male; she was fully female—and we had a high level of sexual attraction for each other. What more could we need? I anticipated that this part of marriage was going to be heaven for both of us. After the wedding, I discovered that what is heavenly for one may be hell for the other…” To know more, read the book. That’s the essence of me bringing it to your knowledge.

THAT APOLOGIZING IS A SIGN OF STRENGTH AND FORGIVENESS IS NOT A FEELING.

These are two different chapters in the book but I chose to marry them because they’re related. Offenses are bound to occur, apologizing is not weakness and forgiveness is not I feel like.  Don’t let ego come in the way of peace in your home and don’t let unforgiveness  tear you apart. You have to know this before you say ‘I do’.

There are many more things to know. I only scratched the surface for you. Go and dig deep into the book and seek out its treasures for yourself.

JESUS AT THE CENTER MAKES THE HOME GODLY AND HAPPY.

Love ya,

Kemi.

THE SPIRIT FILLED FAMILY