I think that in most cases, the aspect of child discipline is left to the father and I guess that is why you here statements like “wait till your father comes and I will report you to him.” This statement itself is another issue to be tackled because it gives the child a negative impression that the mother is probably incapable of instilling discipline and the father is the one who can. I don’t even think this is a good approach for the fathers to get involved in discipline.

While there are some fathers who are involved in correcting their children’s bad behaviours and shaping them to be better individuals, there are some absentee fathers or fathers who are not in any way concerned about how their children turn out.

Children can easily decipher when parents are divided on the issue of discipline. They know who is likely to do what and what not. Click To Tweet

Children can easily decipher when parents are divided on the issue of discipline. They know who is likely to do what and what not. They know which parent wants to play the good cop and which parent doesn’t find it difficult to play the bad cop. You might want to play the cool dad who doesn’t want to ruffle the feathers of your children, while you leave your wife to do the correcting and rebuking of bad behaviour.

As a father, you should be able, with the partnership of your wife instill the values you desire in your child and correct the vices you do not want. You don’t want to be that father who corrects your wife in the presence of your children thereby leaving room for your children to disrespect their mother. You also don’t want to encourage the idea that you’re the final authority when it comes to discipline, and you shouldn’t run down the disciplinary action carried out by your wife except it is clearly excessive and that should not be done in the presence of your kids and the correction should be done respectfully.

As a father, it is quite important for you to know that discipline is not yelling at your child, depriving them of the basic necessities of life, or physically assaulting them. The goal of every form of discipline is to bring about correction and obedience, not just to punish the child because you were irritated or annoyed by their action.

The goal of every form of discipline is to bring about correction and obedience, not just to punish the child because you were irritated or annoyed by their action Click To Tweet

Fathers, know that discipline is born from love. Check your heart, if you know that the desire to punish the child is born from anger or a transfer of aggression, take out your time to purge yourself from them and let love lead the way of discipline. Learn from your heavenly Father. He is the best teacher.

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Oluwakemi.