The first thing that comes to mind when we hear that the man is the provider of the home is that he is the one who shoulders the responsibility of being the breadwinner and bringing home the bacon. But he is more than that. He is more than what society expects of him. There is more to him being the provider of his home than being the money bag or the ATM card. It’s that depth of provision we are about to explore. I don’t even believe he should be the sole breadwinner of the home.

What are some other needs a father is to provide for his family?

A Spiritual Atmosphere.

I’ve talked about this in the previous post so there is no need to belabour the point. If you haven’t read that post, you can do that here.

Security

This is one great need your children desire from you. They want to feel secure in your love and your affirmation. They want to have a sense that you have their back and no matter what happens you will always be there for them as long as you are alive. Your children also desire to know that you can protect them from danger and you will not intentionally put them in harm’s way.

A Safe Space.

They need a place they can call home where they’re willing to come to because they do not have a tyrannical father. They want to be able to let their guards down when they are at home rather than walking on eggshells. They want to be able to talk freely with you, to be themselves around you and within the home. And they want to be able to explore their talents and passion. They want to know that home is home indeed, and home is where they will find peace, love and harmony.

They need a place they can call home where they’re willing to come to because they do not have a tyrannical father. They want to be able to let their guards down when they are at home rather than walking on eggshells. Click To Tweet

Leadership

This is not some sort of authoritarian control, rather a selfless and exemplary way of living. They need a father who will serve as a role model for them and will instil in them values that will carry them through life. They need someone they can walk up to in their moments of confusion with a deep assurance that they will get clarity. They need someone who will guide them in the right path, walk in that path and cheer them along on that path. They need a father indeed.

Love for Your Wife

You might wonder how, but when you show love for your wife, your children are at peace that their parents love each other and are together. When there is tension between you and your wife, it is the children who will suffer it. Your children feel secure in the love triangle—God, you and your wife.

SUGGESTED READ: A CHILD’S SAFETY IN THE LOVE TRIANGLE

There is more to what I have mentioned, you can find resources on what they need and read up on it. The monetary provision is great, but there is more. Look beyond the scope of just doling out money and nothing more and begin to explore the depths of what it truly means to be a provider. Gone should be the days when financial provision was used as an excuse for not providing in other areas. I come in peace, but there has to be a change.

Oluwakemi.