This is the last post in this series, and I’m excited for how far we have come! All the glory to God.
In the order of things, your children come next after your wife. You should know that God comes first.
There are many fathers who have misplaced their priorities and they have placed their job over their family and invariably over their children. And that is why many of them have lost connection with their children. I think this post is closely tied to the second post in this series. You can read it here.
You should make your children your priority because they are. The day you decided to bring them to this world was the day you signed an unbreakable contract that they were going to be a priority in your life. They do not have to be replaced by other things now that they are born, however legitimate those things may be. Don’t let your child feel that they don’t matter in the grand scheme of things. Don’t leave them feeling unloved and not needed. And don’t make a child less of a priority than another child.
What are some ways you can communicate to your child that they matter more than anything else after God and their mother?
CREATE QUANTITY AND QUALITY TIME TO BE WITH YOU KIDS
You spend your time where your priority lies. You’re a man who has to cater for his family, and I get it. But at the end of all your work and busyness, if you fail to make them a priority in your life, they may not count you worthy of being a priority in their lives. You would have missed out on all the good times you should have spent together, and there will be no memories to keep them going.
DON’T REDIRECT THEM TO THEIR MOTHER WHEN THEY COME RUNNING TO YOU
Except what their requesting for is in the exclusive preserve of their mother, don’t send them to her when the come to you. This communicates to them that you’re not available for them, what you’re doing is more important than them, and it is only their mother who can and should meet their needs. You know what, they’ll get the memo and they will stop coming to you. What will be the effect of this message passed and received? You lose your place in their lives. They just know that daddy is just there but not really there because he has other important things to do.
Join them in solving their assignments. Do the school runs as much as you can. Play with them. Pray with them. See to their development and celebrate their achievements. Let them know that they have a present father. If you have to say no to some things just so you can spend a little more time with your kids, do it and don’t feel guilty about it, at least your kids are your priority and should get a worthy portion of your time, not the crumbs.
CATCH THEM YOUNG
As a father who is intentional about leading his children to Christ, catch them young. Sow the seeds while their minds are still very fertile and they can absorb what they are being taught. As you’re putting them down to sleep and reading to them, let some of your book collection be Bible stories they can understand. Pray with them, pray over them, and pray for them.
You’re accountable to God for the gifts He put in your hands, don’t disappoint Him.