You think that once you’ve been married for a couple of years, you’re already used to how marriage works and the remaining years can be going on autopilot. A big NO!

Good marriages are not built by operating on autopilot. No matter how long you’ve plied the route of marriage and the terrains you’ve covered, every new day you see in that marriage is a new zone entirely. To think you’ve walked through it before and want to do it as you’ve done in previous times, you just might crash that plane. Every day is a new day and you have to be intentional about each day you have in that marriage.

The reason people say marriage requires effort and is hard work is because it takes daily determination to see to it that you’re enjoying your marriage. You have to do the grind yourself because there’s nobody that can make your marriage work except you and your spouse. You have to make sure that on a daily basis you take out the foxes that want to destroy the vine.

The reason people say marriage requires effort and is hard work is because it takes daily determination to see to it that you’re enjoying your marriage Click To Tweet

You have to make sure that you’re standing at the gate daily to wade off the enemy that wants to invade your home. You have to make sure that every day you are intentional about serving your spouse even when you don’t feel like it. You have to pray daily and be connected with God as an individual and as a couple—a three-fold cord is not easily broken.

And if you’re a ‘single pringle’ like me, don’t think you’ll enter into marriage and you’ll wing it and everything will be fine. NO! It won’t be fine, and it can’t be fine. Know this and know peace. You will have to work for the beautiful and blissful marriage you desire.  And as one of my mentors—Mrs. Juliet Ambali—will say, “A happy home doesn’t happen by itself.” Get ready to do the work!

Your marriage will be beautiful and built to last.

Jesus at the centre makes the home godly and happy.

With love,

Oluwakemi.