In one of my videos I shared 4 months ago, where I said that it takes two to make a marriage work, someone dropped a comment on my Facebook page, asking me what percentage the man holds and what percentage the woman holds. I did not reply his comment because from his previous comment, he wanted to spark a debate.

Let me do justice to that question, “What percentage does the man hold and what percentage does the woman hold?” I’m sure you know the answer because the title has told you.

Some people have this idea that when you’re entering into a relationship, you and your partner have to share everything in equal halves so that no one feels cheated. They believe their relationship should be a 50-50 split and any other thing is a problem. Well, let me inform you. This arrangement and this mind-set is the real big problem.

When you go into a relationship with the idea that there’s a limit to what you can do, and once you’ve played your part, that’s all, you will set yourself up for failure. Click To Tweet

When you go into a relationship with the idea that there’s a limit to what you can do, and once you’ve played your part, that’s all, you will set yourself up for failure. However, when you go with the view that the relationship requires all of you and all of your partner, you can truly work together as a team, and you both will see to it that nothing is coming between this your resolve. See to it that you are putting everything you have and everything you are into the success of your marriage.

Childcare is not a 50-50 split. Your children require the whole of you, not half of your spouse and half of you. Finances is not a 50-50 split, it requires that both of you give your all to the financial stability of your marriage. This negates the selfish ideology that his money is our money and her money is her money. Domestic work in the house is not a 50-50 split where there is a strict, regimented time-table on who does what, rather it should be both of you seeing to the fact that you both have a safe and clean space you call your home.

When you give up the idea that you and your spouse are coming together to give a fraction, and embrace the fact that it is all of you that is required in your marriage, then you are on the journey to a successful union.

When you give up the idea that you and your spouse are coming together to give a fraction, and embrace the fact that it is all of you that is required in your marriage, then you are on the journey to a successful union. Click To Tweet

Your marriage will be beautiful and built to last.

Oluwakemi.