It was one night in May while going through the scripture for the day by the YouVersion app that I decided to use this passage to pray for my marriage, and felt I should share it on the blog. Before this time, I’ve written in my journal that the verses of this scripture will be made into a wall art in my home, and I’ve also made it a prayer point that my future partner and I will live our lives yielding to the Spirit and not fulfilling the desires of the flesh.

What really struck me that night was when I was lead to take each of the fruits of the Spirit and pray on them one after the other. Let’s take a look at what the passage says before we go into the prayer.

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance: against such there is no law…if we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit” (VV. 22,23,25). Let’s take it one after the other. I’m a lady, so I’ll use the masculine pronoun. As a man reading this, flip the pronouns.

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance: against such there is no law…if we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit. Click To Tweet
  • Love: I’ll love my husband as Christ expects me to love him, and as Christ loves me. I receive the grace to love him without conditions attached.
  • Joy: I’ll rejoice with my husband at the times he is rejoicing and remind him of our greatest joy giver.
  • Peace: I’ll live in peace with him. My home will have an atmosphere of peace, and the Prince of Peace abides with us.
  • Longsuffering (patience): I receive grace to be patient with him at all times and in all seasons.
  • Gentleness: I’ll be gentle with him and not be harsh or hard towards him.
  • Goodness: I’ll do him good and not evil all the days of my life.
  • Faithfulness: I’ll be faithful to him and to our vows.
  • Meekness: I’ll live in humility and not go around with pride in my heart towards my husband.
  • Temperance (self-control): I receive the grace to exercise self-control in my interactions with him; through my words and my actions—not to use hurtful words or cutting remarks in moments of disagreements or misunderstanding.
These prayers are not about your spouse rather, you’re praying for yourself to reflect the fruit of the Spirit in your relationship with your partner. Click To Tweet

These prayers are not about your spouse rather, you’re praying for yourself to reflect the fruit of the Spirit in your relationship with your partner. You should first desire to see the fruit of the Spirit at work in you before looking out for it in your partner. How beautiful would it be if you are praying for the fruit of the Spirit in your life and your partner is doing the same? It’s going to be more than a beautiful union.

Your marriage will be beautiful and built to last.

Oluwakemi.