Marriage

PREPARING FOR YOUR MARRIAGE

Time and time again, I often here that the best time to prepare for anything you want to do in life is not the time you want to do it, but a long time before. Marriage is not an exception in this, as it is a fundamental aspect of our existence. Often times, singles are...

MANAGING IN-LAW RELATIONSHIPS

Most of the problems pertaining to in-law issues start from the mind as a result of ingrained perceptions that the society has in general. It’s almost as though the mention of the word ‘in-law’ means something negative and it’s because people who have this perception ignorantly complicate matters for themselves. It starts from the little...

WHEN OFFENCES ARISE

Just recently, there was a misunderstanding between some people which festered for about a week. They could not meet eye to eye and a blooming friendship was almost hitting the rocks until there was an intervention from a third party. It was at that point of settlement that a thought struck me, “how will I...

3 REASONS I BLOG ON MARRIAGE AND FAMILY LIFE

Hey! This is me opening up a part of my life. This is subtle vulnerability. So, recently, about 3 months ago I started blogging on marriage and family life. I’m sure it left questions in the mind of some people and it was not strange to some. Some may wonder why I changed my focus...

LITTLE FOXES

“Tola, can we have the light off?” “Man, you know I like the light on when I’m sleeping. Moreover, you have your blindfold, please, use it.” “Is it every night you want me to be using blindfold? Why so selfish? You always put yourself first. Rubbish.” “Can you hear yourself. You’re saying someone is selfish....

LET THERE BE ROMANCE, AND THERE IS!

Going through my Facebook news feed, I came across a piece written by someone I wait on to read his posts, writing on how to keep romance alive by doing little things to and with our spouse. Reading through the comments, I noticed many of the commenters saw it as something strange. I was gobsmacked...

IF YOU WANT IT, EARN IT

Disclaimer: This post doesn’t aim to encourage women to disrespect their husbands. It’s a biblical command for women to submit to and reverence their own husbands just as they would submit to Christ. It’s a cliché that women want to feel loved, while men want to be respected. World over, respect is a big deal for...

EVEN THE PROVERBS 31 WOMAN HAD MAIDS

Some times ago, a friend jokingly told me that I’m the kind of person who will have about five maids who will tend to my needs. The story behind this is for another day. The main reason she said this was because she felt I was lazy and could not handle things myself. (It’s not...

WHEN ATTRACTION FADES

There are certain things that make a man attracted to a woman and vice versa. The main form of attraction this post will cover is the physical attraction that serves as a magnetic force between a man and a woman. It’s common knowledge that men are highly visual beings and they are moved by what...

MORE THAN FINANCE

“I do not seem to understand you in this house. Your attitude these days is amazing. All you do is work work work. You give us everything except yourself. Did I marry money? I married you, but it seems I’ve lost you!” an enraged Brenda was ranting at her husband. “Are you done?” Jasper responded....