Marriage

OF FATE AND FAITH – EPISODE 3

Episode 1   Episode 2  On a cold harmattan morning, five years after adopting Adura, my husband and I were taking a hot bath when I felt dizzy. The next time I opened my eyes was in the hospital, Adura and my husband standing on either sides. Drips were passed through my veins and I could...

OF FATE AND FAITH – EPISODE 2

Read Episode 1 A wave of nausea hit me. What could that be? As though there had been a conspiracy, my stomach churned and I ran to the toilet. This is the second month I have missed my period and I’ve been sick for sometime. I went to the pharmacy to get a pregnancy kit...

OF FATE AND FAITH – EPISODE 1

It happened again. This wasn’t the first, neither was it the second nor the third. As the blood trickled, the tears came pouring out like a fountain. “Lord why?” I cried out. After 10 years of waiting, why should I still suffer miscarriages, I thought aloud, crying even harder. Perhaps the tears could wash away...

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THE THREE LEGS OF INTIMACY

There was this triangular shaped stool I loved so much. I loved the concept of it having three legs instead of the conventional four. I wouldn’t want to call it an idol, but I cherished it with every fibre in me. I let no one touch or use it. I had just returned from school,...

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LEAVE TO CLEAVE

I never knew I had married a mama’s boy, a big old baby who wants to remain latched to mummy’s bosom than to have an independent life of his own. I can’t imagine spending the rest of my married life receiving orders from my mother in-law and watch her control how I run my home....

AFTER ‘I DO’, WHAT NEXT?

Since this topic is very vast and an entire book cannot completely capture what this entails, because marriage is a broad subject, let me first state that the focus of this article is on keeping the marriage aglow. You probably have had your dream wedding or not, but then, you have taken the most important...

WHEN WILL I SAY ‘I DO’?

“Tola, I’ve found husband for you o, since you’ve refused to bring one home”, mama Tola shouted from the kitchen in the typical African mother’s way. Tola was already fed up of her mother’s constant nagging and today wasn’t a good day for her. Ignoring the old woman, she plugged her ears with her earpiece...

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“I DO”: DEFINING THE MARRIAGE VOWS

“Tola, do you take Toba as your lawfully wedded husband?” The minister asked with a deep baritone voice. “Yes, I do” Tola responded with all joy. “Then repeat after me. I, Tola, take you, Toba to be my wedded husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer...

THE UNVEILING!

In the previous post, I had spoken about our change of name, and I remember telling you to watch out for the unveiling. Right here, I’ll be sharing so many things that brought about this change in the focus of the blog. For the past one and half years or thereabout, the blog had been...

ALERT! CHANGE OF NAME

Holla! I’m so glad I’m changing my name. It’s been really good bearing my previous name, but as we all know, change is the only constant thing in life, and a change has come. I’m so sure you’re excited with me. Some couple of months ago, I got engaged with something I really loved and...